Korean Kindness to “Kinder”

I was leaving the home to pick up my husband and go to a couple’s night at a friend’s home.  I had daughter in an old (not very good) carrier. I had in one hand a huge bag filled with our version of the potluck for the evening at a friend’s house.  I had in the other hand the entire Pack ‘N Play.  Everything was huge and bulky and I was struggling. 

A middle aged Korean woman (somewhere between 50-60 years old... they age so gracefully here, I’m afraid to guess age but definitely a grandma), shared the elevator with me.  She was all dolled up.  She was tiny, and wearing huge practically-spiked heels and a gorgeous long fur.  She was beautiful and dressed to impress. 

As the elevator landed at the car-level, she saw my dilemma.  Without thought or warning, she grabbed the Pack ‘N Play.  Now, if this was a huge male, I would have graciously accepted.  But this was a little -- very little -- lady (who was my elder) all dressed up and in heels. 

I tried to take it back.  She wouldn’t allow it.  I pursued as she walked ahead of me to the cars.  She wouldn’t let go of the PnP.  And the language barrier didn’t matter, it was clear I was trying to get it back and clear she wasn’t about to give it back.

I finally conceded and showed her where we were parked.  She helped me put it into the trunk and made sure I was OK putting in my daughter. 

Wow!  That was so thoughtful. 

People are very kind -- and don’t have the slightest hesitation to intercede -- when it comes to children.  Be it helping to make them warmer in the winter, playing with them, or keeping them safe.  One man gave me his umbrella when I was caught in the rain with her in the carrier (I was lost and SO grateful to him -- and he just disappeared).  I am touched by their kindness.  Yes, sometimes -- oftentimes -- the warmth advice falls on ungracious ears, but it did help me realize how cold it was and how cold she was when I received it the first time.

So, I am repenting of my cultural annoyance of Korean intercession with parenting.  Kamsamnida (thank you), little lady with the beautiful fur.  You made my life so much easier for that brief moment.